special guest is non-fiction writer Paige
Adams Strickland to tell us a bit about her personal story, Akin to the Truth: A Memoir of Adoption and
While Paige does a virtual book tour, she’s giving away an e-copy of Akin to the Truth at each stop to a lucky commentor. So if you’d like a chance to win a copy of this book, leave a comment below, the e-version type you’d prefer if you win, and a way for me to get in touch with you if you win!
Strickland, a teacher and writer from Cincinnati, Ohio, is married with two
daughters. Her first book, Akin to the
Truth: A Memoir of Adoption and Identity, is about growing up in the
1960s-80s (Baby-Scoop Era) and searching for her first identity. It is also the
story of her adoptive family and in particular her father’s struggles to figure
out his place in the world while Paige strives to find hers. After hours she
enjoys family and friends, pets, reading, Zumba™ Fitness, gardening and
Welcome, Paige. Please tell us about
your current release.
adoption was still one of those private and taboo topics. Not much identifying
information was provided for adoptive families or for birth parents by the
agencies. In Ohio, records were sealed forever. Adoptees and birth mothers were
supposed to be thankful for the adoptive family and never look back. Adoptive
parents thought their deal was signed and sealed.
and teenager, growing up adopted was like another Scarlet Letter “A”
if anyone ever found out the truth. At least, that’s the way I felt as I
muddled through social situations and other interpersonal relations. I always
loved my adoptive family, but realized I wanted not just more, but what other
“regular born” people had: real roots, accurate health history and
authentic family lore. I wanted freedom from shame, more dignity, authenticity
and a full identity.
random chance, a local TV talk show in 1987 revealed that certain records were
open if you were born before 1964 in the state of Ohio, and my life was never
the same after that program.
quest, (pre computer), for my identity, my adoptive father struggled with his
own self image and sense of belonging, so both father and daughter embarked on
separate and unique parallel missions to find what was missing in their lives.
story of how being adopted affected me growing up in the 1960s, 70s and early
80s. It shows how one adoptee has embraced and learned to view family more
globally. I tell the saga of a loving but dysfunctional family of both blood
and choice, trying to cope with typical and not so typical life alterations
during the decades of social revolution, free love and knowing that the most
fascinating family stories are discovered by those passionate enough to search.
inspiration began when my children, who were young at the time, began to ask me
all sorts of questions about my family. One time, when we were visiting my
mother in Florida, I got out the old family slide projector and showed them
what the 70s were really like! Haha! That sparked a lot of memories and
stories. The book project started out small for them and then grew as I studied
other writers’ memoirs, attended a wonderful writing group and realized that I
had a for-real book that was not just for my “’tween-aged” kids but other
readers, especially those who might be interested in adoption issues.
question, “Where did I come from?” Mom and Dad began by telling me that I came
from God. I found that piece of information very confusing because the first
picture they have of me was of a dark-haired woman holding me with her back
turned. My baby face peers over her shoulder. Bare trees and a sky-blue
Volkswagen with Ohio license plates can be seen in the background. For a long
time I wondered if God was a brown-haired lady from Ohio who drove a classic
nondescript and lacking in information. It wasn’t exciting and filled with
humor and tenderness like scenes on television. Everybody else had pictures of
sleeping babies in mothers’ arms, related stories of all the visitors who came,
and told the dramatic stories of how their dad frantically loaded the car,
backed out of the driveway and knocked over the trash cans as he sped off in a
blizzard during rush hour to deliver Mom to the hospital 20 miles away while
she sat beside him panting and yelling, “Honey, hurry faster! The baby’s coming
now!” I didn’t have a father who nervously paced around in a waiting room,
wearing a tread into the flooring with his big feet, sporting a five-o’clock
shadow across his weary face. No doctor in scrubs came out after many hours to
shake his hand and say, “Congratulations, Mr. Adams, you have a daughter.”
with receiving blankets and tiny booties while she sat in a chair with a cup of
tea, a bulging belly and a romantic glow on her face, either.
both time and weight and had to spend about a month in the hospital until I
grew and gained enough to be released to foster care. Then my parents came
along in 1962 and adopted me from Hamilton County Welfare when I was 13 months
old. Their social worker informed them very little about my start in life, only
that the birth mother was a minor, and she couldn’t keep me.
“lazy eye” condition. My adoptive grandmother was quite concerned that my feet
were pigeon-toed, so she and my mother took me to doctors in downtown
Cincinnati for examinations. Both specialists told my family that everything
was just fine, and that eventually I would grow out of these perceived
deformities between my eyes and my feet. I just needed extra time. That gap
between my birth and the 13 months it took to have me placed in a home setting
set me back, and the welfare agency told my parents that I might lag behind in
my development. It was HCW’s version of “Buyer beware”. When I was eventually
adopted, I didn’t walk or crawl. I could sit up but not yet walk. I used a
bottle, but I could not feed myself finger food. I rolled around and cried,
“Waa,” but I couldn’t do much else. I was a blob, even at slightly over one
year, until people began to spend enough time with me and allow me freedom to
explore scattered toys, books, messy cookies, hallways and the gooey jowls of
our family dog, like a sensorimotor-staged baby needs to do.
the side yard of our house throwing a bunch of leaves in the air at some lady.
I can still recall the clear autumn sky and the crunchy mounds of just-raked
leaves of rust red, dusty orange and brown, spiraling in the air as they landed
around us. Maybe the lady was my mom who raised me. I wish I could know for
certain that my first memory is of my mom.
shot, but I do know that when it happened in November of 1963, Mom and Dad were
in the process of packing up the house and moving to a new place over that
somber weekend. We were staying in the same town, but it would be a larger home
on a street with a lot of young kids and sidewalks for bike riding and walking
to school. My parents were among the few in the nation, it seemed, who were not
JFK fans. Mom and Dad had their own agendas and were more focused on packing
boxes, loading cars, making runs to the new house and meeting deadlines. Their
priorities at the time were primarily on my father’s emerging career in
management with the phone company, and setting up house. They were constantly
going, growing, changing and making improvements to their lives, such as
adopting a child, moving to a better place and buying nicer cars. They were
go-getters and never stayed satisfied for very long.
Grandma Frances, my mom’s mother. She lived in walking distance, so we spent
many days and nights together. Grandma Frances, who had an incredible sweet
tooth, was also the provider of endless sugary and starchy treats like big
cookies with icing, hard rolls, sweet rolls, chocolate pudding and her homemade
sodas with vanilla ice cream, Hershey’s syrup and 7 Up. When she made them at
her house, they were the best because she even had long spoons with handles
that were actually straws. In all the sugar we consumed, not a soul in our
family ever turned up diabetic. No one cared about carbohydrates or fat either.
We simply ate and enjoyed.
The Wizard of Oz. I spent hours pretending to be Dorothy, roaming my block with
a stuffed dog and a basket. I re-enacted scenes from the movie so much that my
nursery school teachers were baffled by my need to live in an imaginary world
and by my extreme creativity. The movie scene in which Dorothy stands at the
gate of her farm, while the wind howls was mesmerizing as I watched the
incredibly real-looking twister spin closer in the background. It was amazing
was little. One was being short. I had a very intense complex about this
condition. I hated the word and anything synonymous with it. For whatever
reason, to me, short or little equaled inadequate, and I dreaded being
unworthy. I was a small child in a world full of important adults, who ruled
everything. Adults in charge of me held the secrets to the universe. They knew
all the answers to information I wanted to know, like where I really came from.
I surmised that if I could be physically bigger, I would have the authority to
know more about myself and anything else I wanted to learn, but little people
like me were stupid and couldn’t handle it. From cookie jars to closed legal
records, everything was out of my reach.
at the time was my first name, Paige. I absolutely hated it. It was different.
My parents picked my name because my Aunt Nora, (my dad’s sister), had heard it
somewhere, and she liked it. Aunt Nora did not have children of her own. I
don’t know if my parents were trying to include her or felt sorry for her or
what, but because of her idea, they decided not to go with the name Cindy, and
my name became Paige.
school playgrounds. I hated all the jokes and silly remarks about my first
name, and I wished I’d been given a normal name like Julie or Mary. I’d become
angry and yell or cry, and that intensified the taunting of the other children.
Having a temper did not do me any favors.
was sick and tired of going through it with anyone who couldn’t treat my name
normally. No one else had confusion about his or her moniker. My name was the
only identity I did have, and it pissed me off when someone got it wrong. I was
ready to scream and punch out the next person who said, “Oh…like page in a
book.” When I was small, I couldn’t tell the difference between honest mistakes
or if this was another way for people torture me for having an odd name. Once,
when we had to write business letters in third grade, I received a reply to
mine addressed to Mr. Paige Adams. The stupidity and thoughtlessness of people
would never end, even with adults!
school, peers would crucify and senselessly hate you for being different. All I
wanted was to blend in with people. Instead, I saw myself as a feisty, short
person with a weird name, who had an odd start in life and a bad haircut to
boot. My goal was to cruise along, unnoticed, and be treated the same as
everybody else. However, that wasn’t easy for a little person with an uncommon
name, and ugly, crooked pixie bangs, who often felt left out when childhood
friends discussed how do babies get born.
couple of projects I am working on. One is a collection of essays / reflections
about my work as a teacher. I am also writing a sequel to Akin to the Truth
since a lot of people have asked about that.
probably happened in 4th grade when my L.A. teacher loved my
creative writing stories and often shared them with the class. That got me
your work day like? If not, what do you do other than write and how do you find
time to write?
teacher / tutor full-time. I also teach Zumba™ Fitness. During the school year,
I am out the door by 6:30 AM sometimes. If I tutor or teach fitness class, I
might not be home till 8:00 PM. I write a lot / market my book in the PM and on
weekends. It’s good to be a night owl!
know that I have one, but often I am accompanied by one of my four cats who
squeeze into the chair behind me, flop around my feet or paw at the keyboard. /,,,,K7ih…(See?
Just like that!)
when you grew up?
be a mom, a teacher and a writer. Being an artist would have been cool too.
with the readers?
you so much for hosting and helping to promote me.
you for sharing your story!
Readers, don’t forget if you’d like a chance to win a copy of this book, leave a comment below, the e-version type you’d prefer if you win, and a way for me to get in touch with you if you win!